Closure

Everyone seems to seek that sense of closure. People tend to want some sort of conclusion for everything, a way to be assured that a certain episode of life is over and another can begin. The problem is that we don't normally get closure. In our everyday lives, things don't just stop happening, events of the past don't just instantly cease having any effect on our present.

I don't think that we really can just close off an episode of our life. We can learn to accept it, deal with it, and sometimes probably even ignore it pretty damn well. But that doesn't mean that we've forgotten, or really moved beyond it. It's still going to be there, and whether we want it to or not, it's going to continue affecting us.

It seems to be that after something happened, people like dwelling on the concept of another event giving this thing called closure. We tend to think that it will bring us peace, and allow us to take the concerns about the event and just simply set them aside. But it never happens that way. When one set of concerns is displaced, another emerges. And then for that, we wait for some sense of closure.

So it's an endless cycle. And maybe the only way to end that cycle isn't to seek something to end it, but to just accept it for what it is. I guess that's been the subject of a lot of my post lately: just accepting and letting go. No matter how many times I say it, I'm still hesitant to do it. But I guess that's just part of life. Sometimes, we have to let everything go and just live.